ACID SASH

ini adalah bahasa indonesia batak yang entah kenapa gw geli banget dan ini kudu didokumentasikan ke dalam blog gw.hihihi..

On the way to church, yesterday, sunday morning,Jakarta,me, mommy and daddy (just the three of us), i drove the car, papa sat beside me, mommy sat behind me.

Mama: Aduuh nang (nang: sebutan mama ke anak-anak cewe’nya)..ini baju mama kancing-kancingnya kebuka!! (mama ngomong ini dengan nada panik)

Me: Aduuh mama,gimana sih? ntar pak Pendetanya kena serangan jantung lagi ngeliat baju mama kebuka gitu pas duduk(huahahaha).

Mama: aduuh, gimana dong ini?!? aku dah gendut kali (ucapkan dengan nada batak) ini..liat ni tangan-tanganku, gendut gini.

Papa: (dengan nada yang sangat polos) sapa yang pernah bilang kamu kurus??

Me and Papa: Ketawa ampe sakit perut!! hahahahaha…

Mama: ah, papa nih bukannya ngebantuin?!

PaPa: Ngebantuin cemana? Heeraan! (kembali dengan nada batak) lagian udah tau gendut kenapa tadi makan kolak??

Me and Papa: Ketawa lagi ampe sakit pusing..hi hi hi hi…kesian amat si mamak.

Mama: Ah kalian ini deh, emang jahat sama aku. (tiba-tiba mama burp…aaaaaa…eweeeeeerrrgg)… Nah kompes perutku (sejak kapan lagi ada bahasa indonesia kompes instead of kempes)…huahahahaha

PaPa: ha, nga kompes perut mi??  (udah kempes perutnya)

MaMa : iya..hehehe… nang, nanti kamu temenin aku beli peniti di warung depan gereja ya.

Me: iya mama…

Lain waktu, di tengah-tengah diskusi dengan seluruh sanak keluarga tobing..

K ika : jklfaroi#$@#%^,….. Nah jadi kita harus siapin macem-macem.

Mama: ya udah kalo gitu ‘idupin’ dulu pasporku!

Me and K Ika: NGAKAK!!! huahahaha…. apaaaaa laggggiiiii ni mama?!?!…. (maksud hati biar re-new paspor) hihihi… ada-ada aja deh si mama. idupin, doelah!!@$@#$%@#

Komentar abadi tiap kali ngeliat kamar anak-anak putrinya.

Papa:iiiiiiiikkkkkkkkkkaaaaaaaaaaaaa,sariiiiiii,iiiinnnnnnndddddddaaaaahhhhhhhh… aduh, ke’ gimananya kalian?!?  masa’ kamar kaya kapal karam?

kita betiga: ah papa, kapal pecah yang penting cihuuuyy (sambil ngibrit)..hihihi…

Papa: ah, kalian ini, hantu aja takut masuk kamar kalian..

kita betiga: HUahahahahaha….. ampun deh!

Di tempat tidur, gw lagi enak2 tidur…

Mama: saaaaaaaaaaa…. kamu dimana?

Me: di kamar ma!!… kenapa? (sambil teriak dari kamar)

Mama: he he he…engga aku kan mau deket kamu..(terus mama tiduran deket gw and k ika masuk-papa ngikutin dari belakang k ika)

PaPa: Ah kalau kau gitu, aku juga mau ah (terus si papa ngedempet-dempet mama ke gw dan k ika moto2 deh pake kameranya dia)

hihihihi… kocak abis! sebenernya banyak bahasa lain yang gw sendiri lupa yang dibuat mama and papa..kayaknya gw kudu buat perbendaharaan kata2 ajaib. Sebenernya ini semua dari papa. Papa tuh suka buat bahasa aneh-aneh, akhirnya kite ikutan deh buat bahasa macam ‘kumprengon’ dan ‘burjengon’ yang asli made in Tobing Family No 17.

Mengerikan! itu reaksi pertama pas gw tau kejadian ini pas pulang kantor dan denger berita ini hari selasa malam yang lalu lewat siaran CNN.

33 nyawa hilang gitu aja! ampun deh, hal kaya gini ini paling gampang diikutin orang kita. Haduh, gw ampe lemes ngeliat foto-foto, rekaman aksi polisi-polisi itu dan wawancara orang tua korban.

Tapi coba kalau kita pikir kenapa juga kejadian kaya gini bisa terjadi?!

Baru hari ini video rekaman dari si pelaku dikirim ke NBC dan ini petikan kata-kata dari si pelaku. Gw ngutip dari portal news di yahoo.com

"You had a hundred billion chances and ways to have avoided today," he said. "But you decided to spill my blood. You forced me into a corner and gave me only one option. The decision was yours. Now you have blood on your hands that will never wash off."

Udah jelas,dia buat itu semua karena rasa marah yang numpuk. Marah dengan lingkungan sekitar memicu tindakan yang ga sepantasnya dia buat.

"Your Mercedes wasn’t enough, you brats," he said. "Your golden necklaces weren’t enough you snobs. Your trust funds wasn’t enough. Your vodka and cognac wasn’t enough. All your debaucheries weren’t enough. Those weren’t enough to fulfill your hedonistic needs. You had everything."

Dari pernyataan dia yang terakhir, asumsi gw cuman bisa mengira kalau pelaku bener-bener merasa diperlakuan ga adil.

TREAT OTHERS WITH RESPECT!!

Gw jadi inget kembali dengan semua kehebohan gencet-gencetan atau perlakuan ga pantas yang dibuat orang-orang untuk orang lain di jaman SMP-SMU-Kuliah. Orang mati sia-sia untuk hal bodoh!! Orang jiwanya terganggu karena diperlakukan sewenang-wenang sama orang lain, KETERLALUAN! Kejadian di STPDN/IPDN salah satu contoh.

Gw sendiri pernah ngalamin hal kaya gini dulu waktu SMP. Gw inget banget ada kakak kelas yang entah kenapa ini orang bisa nelpon ke rumah dan ngomong " kalo loe ngadu ke orang tua loe, gw akan b***h loe". Inget itu semua bikin gw geleng kepala. Kok bisa cewe berumur 13 tahun ngomong hal macam itu ke adik kelasnya yang baru lulus SD?!?!?!?! Gw cantik juga engga, tajir juga engga?!? Kenapa lagi ni orang pikir gw dulu. Selidik punya selidik emang ni orang ga suka ngeliat gw punya banyak temen cowo. Yaelahhhhhh, ga penting banget sih alasannya. Anehnya lagi selang dua tahun kemudian ni orang betingkah pas di SMU XX. Tanpa sepengetahuan gw, ni orang nyela kakak gw yang lebih senior dari dia dengan menghina orang tua gw. Dasar ni orang aga ‘dangkal’, ga liat kali ya proporsi kk gw yang atlit taekwondo berat-beratan, terbang aja deh tu orang dibuat kk gw. Sampe detik ini gw ga ngerti penyebab ni orang memicu kk gw - yang gw hakul yakin prinsipnya sama kaya gw walau lebih galak yakni sepanjang tu orang masih dalam batas kewajaran-ga akan deh kita usil cari masalah.

Ada lagi kejadian waktu SMU. Udah jelas2 gw sekolah yang pake rok kotak2 yang notabene sah-sah aja pake kaos kaki panjang. Ada gitu geng senior yang memang dikenal ‘kurang kerjaan’ mau ngegencet untuk urusan pake kaos kaki doang?!?! Kasihan gw ngeliat orang-orang itu sekarang. Apa ga ada hal penting lain yang bisa dipikirin mereka ya? Usil bener?!?

Please guys, share your kindness with others no matter who they are.. if we only care for the one we love/like/adore, we’re nothing less than a false person.

Bisa jadi pola didikan di keluarga yang mendorong kejadian macam gini terjadi. Si anak stress di dalam rumah, dia tumpahkan ke lingkungan luar dimana dia bisa seenaknya melakukan apa yang dia mau. Stop domestic violance including using nasty words towards your family member!

Apa sih untungnya menghina orang? Apa sih untungnya menggencet adik kelas? Apa sih ruginya berteman dengan baik sekalipun orang itu punya karakter yang ga kita sukai? Apa sih ruginya bersikap ramah walaupun tidak perlu berlebihan ke semua orang? Ya kalo emang ga tahan ama sikap yang mungkin rada ajaib ya udah ga usah terlalu akrab tapi juga jangan dihina.

Kalau gw menilik ke belakang, mudah-mudahan ga pernah deh gw secara sengaja memperlakukan orang dengan cara ga wajar macam ngegencet orang ataupun nyiksa anak orang dengan hinaan/coretan di dinding sekolah/main fisik. Tapi ya kalo buat salah ke orang, itu mah udah pasti pernah gw lakukan.

Haduh, suka heran gw ngeliat gaya orang yang merasa paling segalanya. Apa tu orang-orang ga sadar ya kalau suatu saat bisa jadi anaknya yang diperlakukan seperti yang dia lakukan dulu-baru deh berasa.

Masalah yang ada sama diri sendiri aja udah ribet, kenapa juga kita nambah2in kerjaan dengan ga bersikap baik sama orang lain. Mau memaafkan juga penting. Jangan ditampar pipi kiri balas tampar pipi kanan. Bener, ga gampang untuk terima perlakuan ga adil dari orang apalagi kalau difitnah. Gw juga suka sakit hati kadang. Tapi ya sudahlah doakan saja orang-orang yang seperti itu.

It is to the credit of human nature, that, except where its selfishness is brought into play, it loves more readily than it hates. Hatred, by a gradual and quiet process, will even be transformed to love, unless the change be impeded by a continually new irritation of the original feeling of hostility.

from The Scarlet Letter

The sharing of joy, whether physical, emotional, psychic, or intellectual, forms a bridge between the sharers which can be the basis for understanding much of what is not shared between them, and lessens the threat of their difference.

from Audre Lodre

Starting today, April 17th, i challenge my self to fulfill two of my personal life and work goals within 2 months. On june i’ll jot down the details. However i got ‘weird’ and funny messages from one of my new friend and the other from  child hood friend from the past (15 years ago) exactly 116 hours ago..

#1 Dont get married until you are 100 percent independent and dont need a man.

At time i received his personal message, honestly i’m drowning and i felt a bit confused. I’ve been thinking this issue all day long, when will i feel ‘dont need a man’ level since yesterday. It’s a tricky statement for a woman.

What actually woman needs? Comfort, a shoulder to ‘cry‘? (Doh!), secure, or just to fulfill social idea that saying [if] having a lifetime partner means you’re a normal woman?or even worst,m-o-n-e-y?!

I think i consider my self as an independent woman. But am i really dont need a man? Oy yoy yoy… well, i’d love to have tons of male friends as in ‘friends zone’ ya..and not having more than 1 man at the same time. I think it’s frustrating!! Managing our time to show our love to our partner and family and friends and concentrate to our job is already a  BIG and HUGE TASK!

The word ‘man’ defines woman and man (i put gender issue here guys..)

So back again, when is the right time to get married? I believe nobody knows sure bout it. Alas, honestly i hate this topic!! It burned me out. But my friend has successfully made my brain working unstoppable for this issue until now.

Let say once a man reach this level, will he just married his partner as soon as possible? Will he consider and try to verify his partner honesty [and or character/obstacles etc] first??

You may say i’m skeptic for the world’s condition nowadays. Here’s my reason.. People have 24 hours a day. Each of us who have a partner faces and meets lot of people during the day. When we fall or stress we tend to talk to someone else instead our partner (though it’s not always) and somehow if we’re not aware bout this, it grows to become ’something’ who eventually lead us to cheat behind our partner. Human tends to see neighbor’ grass (am i saying the rite thing?!) and so it will lead us to see other person and then ‘make a comparison’ to our partner. Sometime it’s good cause then you can evaluate your partner whether he’s the right one or not, is she good enough for you or not, is he equal with you in terms of way of thinking and way to communicate (WHICH IS HIGHLY IMPORTANT FOR ME) or not.

But then, you also have to be CAREFUL because once you see other man is better than what you have, you will always make a comparison now and again. Man is neva get enough!! Plus, livin in the 21st century is not an easy task. With social life tension, rapid things movin, work tension and the old-new-lifetime trend, cheating ,has boost the world into complicated box of life!

GOSH!!!,,, yepp, this is why i still hold on my life to GOD, cause if i think and try to run my life with my own ego, i’ll collapsed. I dont have any strength to face the world’s reality. The world is too frightening for me for this kind of topic. [I stil have to work out myself to become a good follower and yes i failed so many times....]

I’ve just watched an indo movie, Berbagi Suami.It’s a great-satire movie i’d say. But hello??, that’s the real condition of Indonesian Polygamy Lifestyle (IPL) . What on earth a man says in the name of his belief that he can conduct such unfair behaviour?!? However in this movie it shows the tendency of Indonesian woman who is coming from low class society that amazingly accept this lifestyle because she’s tired to live in a poor condition. Most of the cases shows a woman who wants to be 2nd wife or even 4th wife because she knows that the guy is filthy rich who enable her to buy all material things and may ‘enjoy’ her life better!

Again, i encourage my girl friends to be open for all information but then absorb it with a good filter. No wonder there are people out there who hates capitalism. Its endorsed a modern lifestyle with things called JBL,Zegna,BMW,Blackberry,YSL,ZARA,DEBENHAMES and so on. Magazines, tv shows has put explicit message "if you wear this-you’ll look gergeus, if you use this cellphone-you’ll look smart, if you use this gadget-people will call you metrosexual kind of guy". WELL, THE HELL WITH THOSE CREATED STIGMA! It is ok to wear it but dont force your life to go after those material things! I’ve to admit i also want to have those things because good brands shows good quality. But then humble your self to work hard first and dont get trapped with ‘fast track’.

OK, i think i’ve gone too far.. i’m tired of thinking is there any possibility for me to be in ‘dont need a man’ stage and that i’m independent enough before i get married? Or perhaps you dont agree with my friend’s message???

#2 Hi there, are you ’sari’ the one who cried in bahasa class once you read a poem?

Yep, that’s me dude!

It’s a message from my childhood friends. We were in the same elementary school. He was a calm boy at that time. But when i saw his profile just a few minutes ago, he has became a DJ. Awesome. I’m happy for him.

However message he sent me indicates that i was a sensitive kid. hahaha… sometimes i wonder is there any people like me. I do remember there was a time in my junior high school 1st year; i became conductor for monday ceremony. We had to do some rehearsal in class together with our class teacher, Mrs Ross. We were about to sing ‘Syukur’ and weirdly i fell down and cried upon Mrs Ross’ lap. OOO NOOO!!! And it happened in front of my class mates. As i told ya many times, i’m a weird girl. You know what; i really put the lyrics working on my mind. I believe our Indonesian Heroes are truly heroes. I cant help my self to cry cause my imagination of war at year ‘45.  Ah ya, it was too much. I was and still a bit sensitive but i keep improving myself to conduct my behaviour in timely manner.

Not a few of my friends thought that i’m strong. Now i wonder, what is the definition of strong?!

aniwei …I love my nation, no doubt about it… hahaha… i know sometimes it’s weird to see someone who loves this tragic nation but i do!

Ciao bella!   

Kalimat itu terlontar dari kekasihku sore ini. Hari ini aku mengikuti rapat terberat dengan rekan dari sebuah organisasi dan perwakilan dari dua instansi. Berat karena kelugasan wakil dari dua instansi menyatakan biaya ‘tak tertulis’ yang harus disediakan.

Me: sebel banget! Kenapa sih musti pake acara bayar ini bayar itu. Ini kan program dari pihak ‘mereka’ dan mereka jelas tahu ini tujuannya kan buat masyarakat. Lagipula yang meminta acara ini kan dari mereka?! Kita kan hanya pendukung.

Si Dia: Masih mau jadi presiden?

Me: Ko gitu sih ngomongnya? Tetap aja hal kayak gini harus dipertegas.

Si Dia: Nah itulah politik sa. Gimanapun kamu sedang bersinggungan dengan hal itu. Inget harus cerdik seperti ular dan lembut seperti merpati. Jangan terlihat ’sok’. Harus pintar-pintar menghadapi mereka.

Me: Iya, tahu. Cuman aku lemes aja. Heran, padahal dari dulu juga aku tahu hal seperti ini akan terjadi. Tapi karena ini kali pertama aku bersinggungan langsung dengan mereka,jadi sedih campur kesal aja.

—-Geez, i’m dealing again with this kind of stuff (again)—

Kondisi tersebut memaksa aku untuk kompromi dengan ‘kebijakan’ yang menurut aku bukan ‘bijak’. Tapi selama hal ini belum diketuk palu,mari kita berjuang!